Transformation is a change in appearance or form. Often when people come to therapy they are either seeking understanding or transformation. The impact of that transformation will be seen in their relationships - both with themselves and with other people.
When embarking on the journey of transformation there's a few things that come up in the journey and I want to highlight some of them here, which I hope helps you think about where you are and where you have come from:
The journey of Transformation
What is working right now?
What isn't?
What are you hoping to gain from seeking assistance right now?
Why now?
Are you willing to do the work, what may urge you on, and what may hinder you? Ask yourself - If you let go of the symptom (the issue, the belief, the concern, the event - what do you have to gain? What do you have to loose? By that I mean, what are the negative consequences of doing the work and also not? I know that sounds counter-productive, but this also gives you insight into what may come up for you and what you may need to work on.
It takes time and space. You also need to give yourself the space to process things, to reflect, to sit in the discomfort and to also allow the new to emerge.
You have to stretch the new muscle, knowing that not everyone in your environment will respond as you hope, that's ok - you will loose friends, you will make new ones, there will be time to adjust
You have to allow yourself to acclimatise - consciously allow your brain-body system the space to get used to the new, integrate it, and take the next step. Your brain-body system will want to keep you safe - will want to keep you stuck because what it created - your symptom has served a purpose, and your system wants to ensure that you are taken care of, that you remain safe. So if you feel anxious, scared, feel like you have a lot to loose as you heal and grow, its really ok. Use an affirmation to help you "Its safe for me to______"
You have to create a support system to enable you, maybe that support system is you and your therapist initially, that is really okay!
Transformation take courage. It can be a huge change or a little tweak.
You will see the impact of your journey in yourself and in your relationships.
No matter where you are on your journey, you have a right to heal your relationship with yourself and create healthy sustainable relationships with others. In order to do that, you need to pause, reflect on the patterns in your life, join the dots and create new ways of being with yourself and in relation. You deserve that.
To take the step towards your transformation journey, book a session with Farhana.